That part of us that changes the quality of life. How to program the unconscious to have a better life?
Here is a Powerful System.
Unconscious and intuition are two faculties from which we can derive many benefits by making better choices, here I want to give you an instrument used by the best and taken from the book “The power of the unconscious and the NLP” by Richard Bandler.
Man is like a computer, programmable.
Everything that is supplied to the mind is then proposed again accordingly. The reality of each of us is closed in a large mental map in our mind made of millions of branches towards different and united concepts. The brain network and synapses.
With few maps available, we will have a less profound and complete vision of reality. So fewer solutions to problems that we are going to choose … Less solutions for the objectives we undertake.
We unknowingly create our prisons. For example, depression, anxiety and unhappiness are unconscious choices given by what we have planned in the unconscious since children, by parents, by the environment and those around us.
So the difficulty in curing these effects lies in understanding that it is the lived reality and not the truth, because the truth is not the same for everyone but only the internal representation of reality in each of us.
Bandler and Grinder are inspired by this study, which analyzes mental processes and then gives practical tools to change and improve one’s personal life.
In the book The power of the unconscious and the NLP, Richard Bandler explains how the same force and the same mechanism that causes a phobia, for example, can be changed or replaced.
The power of the unconscious can be exploited to eliminate negative patterns and generate other positive ones. It is possible to decide to feel free and happy through the knowledge of how one’s mind works and what mechanisms to adopt to live better, with the increase of self-esteem and even self-irony, learning to laugh at one’s troubles …
In this way Desire is Create!
Start training your unconscious mind.
Successful people know where they are heading and are ready to do whatever it takes to go from where they are now to where they intend to go.
Great golfers train, train, and train again. Baseball players spend their days with the bat in hand, practicing batting hour after hour.
Professional musicians spend much more time in the practice room than on stage. Once I worked with a magician and I guarantee you that he spent his days endlessly repeating even one trick.
The interesting thing is that when these people make mistakes, they never complain: they just laugh and shrug, then keep repeating, until they can do everything correctly.
Even if they manage to do everything just once out of ten, the feeling they get justifies their efforts. They willingly face the nine attempts to be able to enjoy the effects of the tenth. And after a while they manage two out of ten, then four out of ten and better and better, because they are addicted to the pleasure of success.
By contrast, many people experience negative feelings whenever what they would like to do does not happen. This is why I often say: “Disappointment requires adequate planning work.”
Everyone can learn to behave differently in one measure or another and everyone can learn to create pleasant sensations within themselves, but first you need to have an idea of what it will be like to feel and live like that; only then can one proceed to plan how to obtain it for oneself.
Plan your efforts
Obviously, planning takes some time, but it is time well spent. Since practically everyone plans anyway (you really think that the person suffering from anxiety attacks does not plan, that he does not prepare to have one when he is in the supermarket, just as the obsessive-compulsive person plans to behave compulsively in a given, specific situation?), we might as well learn to do it correctly, so as to obtain the desired results.
The first step is always to create more choices. There is no question of choosing or doing the right thing, and then hoping that it will make us feel good: many development programs are based on this; and it is also a guaranteed formula for disappointment.
The reason is simple: we often know what we should do and what we should feel … and when things don’t go like this, we feel terrible.
Usually, this occurs when we lack the flexibility to create new choices. If we have only one option, we are stuck. If we have two, we have a dilemma. But when we have three or more possibilities, things start to be much more pleasant.
When I talk about having options and choices, I don’t mean it in a mental sense, but rather visceral. It is about learning to have different sensations and to make sure that you have the best feeling when moving in the desired direction.
When Virginia Satir spoke of having choices, she did not think of an intellectual understanding of the thing: one must have a neurological experience of what the different options entail, before being able to exercise a choice with authentic volition.
We can all agree that, when traveling by plane, being calm is a better option than being terrified, but not for this reason everyone can choose to be calm; at least not until they are able to feel either calm or terrified: then they can choose.
Why do what you know is wrong
Many of us know what they should do and don’t do it. We know we shouldn’t eat another slice of chocolate cake, but we do. I am diabetic and eat sweets: I know I shouldn’t and I know it so well that, to compensate, I give myself an extra injection of insulin before going to dinner. But if you don’t plan well, choosing the wrong thing can hurt you.
For example, many men know that they shouldn’t look at other women if they are married, but they can’t help it. They don’t really have the option to choose not to: they don’t know how to be indifferent to other women, because they have no idea of the feeling that that thing would entail.
For me, having multiple options means being able to hear more than one thing in response to a situation. For most people it is only a question of stimulus-response: internally, the thought process does not take place voluntarily. An option exists when you can choose purposefully, not when you are a victim of your own thoughts.
If you can choose something, voluntarily, it means that you can select the direction in which you want to go, always keeping in mind the result that that choice will bring you. The choice is therefore something that will not make you regret having chosen another.
When people are stuck in a certain situation, they will tend to blame it by talking only about what forces them to be in that situation, how they can’t get out of it. Unfortunately, however, if they continue to think that way, they will be overwhelmed by such thoughts and therefore it will be impossible for them to get out.
But this is not anything strong, much less unique. The person simply got used to representing the problem in that way and has not yet understood that there are other possible options.
In fact, what I try to get people to do is simply enter mental states that are already part of them, but by relying more on their natural inner processes.
Instead of exploring the horrifying inner images that terrify them with refined detail, I want people to think about which images should be lightened and overexposed beyond belief. There is no need to discuss their origin or meaning: just overexpose them, until they fade into pure white.
How to re-program the image in the unconscious
The scheme is very simple: the unwanted image is lightened until it disappears and then it is immediately replaced with something better or more appropriate. Take control of the button that, in your internal remote control, adjusts the contrast and increase the white levels until the image disappears in a softened sharpness. If you repeat the procedure five times, it becomes very difficult to recall the image, even if you try.
It seems that the unconscious interprets this simple process as a command: not this, but that. Not from A to B, but from A to C. Once your unconscious has accepted the message, keep repeating it. Instead of thinking about thoughts that don’t bring you anything good, you program yourself to think about thoughts that will take you in the direction you want.
And most importantly, this works without fear. Unlike what many religious leaders and all the worst teachers and parents believe, it is not fear that really pushes people forward. Fear blocks us: this is its function, this is its purpose. It is often spoken of in terms of the “fight or flight” response, but whether you fight or flee, you are still trapped in the oldest part of your nervous system … which is not the part of the mind developed to devise and follow plans.
Build your own skills
If you become proficient in understanding and practicing the patterns and skills contained in this book, not only will you be able to use them confidently on yourself, your family, your friends and your customers, but you can also develop your own approaches and further contribute to development in this field.
Try this exercise: “STEAL” A SKILL
1. Choose a “model person” for a certain behavior, someone whose performance you would like to replicate. Spend as much time as possible studying the person you want to model, live or on video recordings. Relax while you watch, slightly blurring your gaze, listening and seeing the flow of actions.
2. When you feel that you have reached an excellent level of familiarity with your model’s executions, close your eyes, relax and recreate in your mind a video of the model person who performs the chosen sequence of actions at the highest level of performance. Observe and listen to all possible elements to shape this competence.
3. When you have observed the mental movie a few times, turn the image and enter the model person: imagine that you can see, hear and perceive directly through the sense organs of the person who excels in that behavior.
4. Follow the same sequence of actions, but this time from the inside, also noting your body sensations during the procedure. Repeat the process several times, until you feel you know it well and that you are comfortable.
5. Get out of the body of the model person, with the intention of preserving your ability as much as possible, once you have returned to your normal state of consciousness.
6. As soon as possible (and as often as possible) practice the borrowed skill, noting how, by exercising it, it improves progressively.
7. Repeat the entire exercise, in combination with any other practical exercise you do, at least once a day for the first twenty-one days and then at least once a week for maintenance.
Relaxing, entering one’s consciousness and starting to explore new realities is, by definition, a state of trance. It is an important skill to develop, especially considering the power of trance. There is a nice difference between a hypnotic, vivid and visceral dream, and simply thinking about something.
Receiving explanations on how to do something is very different from relaxing deeply and entering a state where you can live an experience using all your senses. The second thing involves the entire nervous system.