Where does a goal come from?
Defining goals is fundamental to give a direction to your life.
Where does a really important goal for us come from? Generally defining a goal is somewhat the final stage of a process that started in the form of a dream or desire that has made room in our mind.
Everyone has the ability to dream and it is precisely this ability that allows us to imagine the things we would like to get from our lives.
The more vivid and clear a dream in our mind, the more we have the possibility of being able to transform it into something concrete.
The realization of this dream takes place through the conversion of what we desire into something more tangible, clear and defined.
Setting goals is the phase in which a dream is made clear and achievable. The connection between dreams and goals is constantly present. In order to anticipate the future, we must first imagine it, we must first dream of it.
Motivation (or motivated action)
Now that we have our dream and we have converted it into a goal we have to define it better.
This is the key to the success of the goal setting: a clear definition.
The more clearly your goals are defined, the more they will have the power to drag you on the tortuous path to follow to reach them.
If you think that achieving what is important to you is easy, know that it is not so. It is almost a natural law:
The more important something is for us, the more we will find it difficult to achieve it.
This does not mean that it is impossible to achieve the important things for us, on the contrary, but it is as if life were putting obstacles in front of you to verify if indeed the objective you have chosen (the dream) is really important for you or not.
This is why it is of fundamental importance to define objectives that you then decide to pursue and above all it is important that they have a solid base and come from a dream / desire that for you is necessary at all costs to make it come true.
Such well-defined objectives allow you to remain focused and, above all, motivated in achieving them.
The goal is the King, the motivation is the Queen
Many of you will probably have set goals in the past, perhaps the so-called “good intentions for the new year” which, on time, you have not achieved.
Year after year the same pattern is repeated: you start a certain path to achieve your goals but then, along the way, you lose motivation and everything translates into nothing.
Have you ever wondered what this constant lack of success in achieving your annual goals depends? One possible answer is that you have no real motivation to work towards them.
I will give you an example. Let’s say your goal is to lose weight.
So start a diet a few days or a few weeks.
After that, start to follow it less, first one day, then another, until you go back to eating as you did before (or start to procrastinate) going on a diet, with all the consequences of the case.
Stay of the same weight and maybe even gain weight because of the psycho-physiological compensation due to the calorie deficit previously maintained for a few weeks (it is not uncommon for those who go on a diet for a certain period then take back the kilos lost with interest).
Such situations occur every day.
I will give you another example. Suppose that the life of a person you love (for example your mother or father, your wife or husband, etc.) depends exclusively on your dieting and exercising every day until you reach a lean body is in shape.
What would you do? I’ll tell you: you would go on a diet and exercise without even thinking about it and, more importantly, you would reach the goal with 100% probability of success.
Can you see the totally different approach? So what prevents you from reaching your goals?
The fact that you don’t have the right motivations or that you don’t have enough motivations!
One of the secrets to achieving the goals and having the right (and numerically sufficient) reasons to do the things you need to do and move forward along the way.
How to define your goals with the “hand technique”
Now that you know how our mind behaves when it comes to goals, you have a valuable strategy in hand.
You are no longer unprepared but, being aware of these mental dynamics, you have enormous possibilities to better define and achieve your goals. Let’s start the practical part!
In this article we will focus on defining the really important goals for you. In particular, we will use the hand technique. I will write about this technique in the future; for the moment start by looking at the following image:
In the technique of the hands, each finger corresponds to a goal with a certain importance. The importance of each target is given by the length of the finger itself.
If you think about it, it is a perfect system: with the hand technique we will have to define two very important objectives for us, four objectives which are on average important and four objectives – relatively – not very important.
In the image you see the use of the term priority which is understood here not as urgency but only and exclusively as importance. In the end we will have ten goals.
Ten is the perfect number for setting important goals. They are not too many and not too few. They allow you to plan correctly and work well distributed.
Remember that as far as the two with high priority are concerned, they are really, really, REALLY important to you.
In your notebook or a sheet of paper, write the title “Long-term goals“.
At this stage you have to answer the following question: “What do I want to accomplish in my life in X years?”
Being long-term goals, you must think that these are goals that you want to achieve within a certain time period that can be from 1 to 10 years or even longer (depends on the size of your goal).
Remember one important thing: be detailed!
You need to describe clearly and in detail what you want to achieve.
For example, if you want a certain job, describe the type of job, the tasks you would like to carry out, the salary you would like to receive, the responsibilities, how many collaborators you would like to manage and so on. The aim is to understand exactly what you want.
Once you have finished this phase you have to move on to the next one: the reasons.
Why do you want to achieve that goal? What are the strong motivations that would push you to work hard to achieve it?
This step is fundamental because, analyzing the reasons behind your desire to achieve it, you may find that it is not so important for you to achieve that specific goal.
This would then push you to review the target or find a new one. On the contrary, however, you may find that the motivations that drive you to achieve precisely that goal are vital for you.
The question is that if you have good reasons to achieve your goal you will have more chances to achieve it.
On the contrary, frivolous reasons could make you fail.
Remember that the more important and great the goal, the more you must have valid and vital reasons to achieve it.
Define personal goals: the action plan to be followed step by step
Ok, you have clarified your goals and motivations. Now you must have an action plan.
In this plan you will write the necessary steps to achieve your goals.
You should write them down according to a very specific priority (first the most important things to do) and a sequence (what to do before what).
Each point of your action plan represents a step forward in achieving your goal.
This is a very important phase: you are creating the strategy that will guide you in the process of achieving your goal.
Give it all the necessary time, review it, correct it, update it, in short, take care of it better and above all follow it.
Day after day, month after month, act to complete every point on the list, from the first to the last.
Only in this way will you achieve your goal.
Successful models and WINNING BEHAVIORS
Success Models are sets of rules (things to do, things to remember, actions, behaviors, ways of thinking) extrapolated from the analyzed personalities and which have produced winning results on them. These rules therefore, if assimilated, followed and made their own, make it possible to replicate the same results.
Here are some winning behaviors that you can have in your life to improve your results:
Remember: setting goals gives you the opportunity to drive your life.
- Setting goals is the phase in which a dream is made clear and achievable. In order to anticipate the future, we must first imagine it, we must first dream of it.
- This is the key to the success of the goal setting: a clear definition. The more clearly your goals are defined, the more they will have the power to drag you on the tortuous path to follow to reach them.
- Well-defined goals allow you to stay focused and, above all, motivated in the achievement of the same.
- Very often, if you don’t achieve your goals, it’s because you don’t have the right motivations or that you don’t have enough motivations!
- Ten is the perfect number for setting important goals.
- Answer the following question: “What do I want to accomplish in my life in 10 years?
- Be detailed in defining your goals.
- Ask yourself why you want to achieve that goal and what are the strong motivations that would push you to work hard to achieve it.
- Create your action plan to achieve your goal. Draw up a series of actions to perform to divide your goal into smaller steps and reach it more easily. Do it for all your goals.
Success Models are small and simple information that can drastically change your life if you assimilate it and make it your own. The secret of success? It is that there are no secrets but only ways of being, doing and thinking.